First, let me start off by saying that these are simply my own opinions and what I have experienced. Take what I say with a grain of salt and know that more than anything I find my experiences to be mostly funny...
A few weeks ago I read an article about the top ten reasons to date a Croatian. I read it and laughed at it. First of all, the things written were a Croat at his/her best. It's true we like the finer things in life and are extremely passionate people. We are romantic and pretty darn attractive...I mean, really, there are some damn hot men walking the streets of Dubrovnik. However, I have a slightly different take on what it's like dating guys from Croatia. Spending most of my life in the States, naturally I have a certain way of thinking, especially when dating, but I have discovered that all that goes out the window in this land. Oh the joys of dating!
First: The passionate guy... He's the guy who sees you walking into the room, his mouth drops open and in that instant he will do anything to have you. Oh yes, I remember it well...It was a whirlwind romance...dinner, drinks, long talks on the pier. We talked of going away together and the future was bright. His passion for me was exhilarating. How could I not get caught up in that?! Finally, I have found an amazing guy who sees my worth and won't let me go! But wait! He is letting me go! What's going on?? What's happppeeennniinnngg?! In the blink of an eye, the passion goes away, just as fast as it started. What happened?!...Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh....you got bored...you found a new girl? You've decided that you love her now? Well I will leave you two alone then! ...So much for the happily ever after with that guy...On to the next!
Second: He's here then he's gone...oh wait you're back! Now you are gone.. I met this guy who was so cute and very kind. He and I had a great conversation. It seemed that he was in to me and I thought I was giving the vibe that I was into him to, but then he disappears. But then, a couple of days later, there he is adding me on Facebook! Oh yay! I wait patiently for the message...you know the message that is so adorable as he shyly asks me out. But nothing. Ok, maybe he's just REALLY shy...I will write him, really put it out there that I am interested. I write an adorable message, if I do say so myself. I'm reserved yet slightly flirty, how could anyone resist? But he doesn't respond. Ok then, must have scared him off. But wait! There he is, I run into him in town. He says that he saw my message but he has a hard time writing in English. Of course! What was I thinking?! We talk and flirt. I'm liking this guy more and more. Later that night, I get a message from him. He asks me out! YES! This is great, I think! We plan on going out later on in the week. We exchange numbers and he says he will call to confirm. I'm so excited! I get to go out with this great guy and get to know him. But then he never calls! UGH! Whhhyyyy?!?! Two weeks later, there he is again. He comes right up to me and apologizes. He's been so busy but he still really wants to take me out. Later that night, another message. He was happy to see me. I think well this time, we are going out for sure. NOPE! Disappeared again! I give up! Great guy...would love to go out and get to know him...but he kind of has to follow through. I'm not sure men here realize that when you make plans with a girl, you should really come through with those plans. Doesn't look good buddy! He's still cute though!
Third: I like you so I will just stare at you and then add you on Facebook later. Oh yes, I know this all too well. I went to an event with my dad a while back and I was one of the few girls there. I was pretty bored because no one was talking to me. They would just stand there and stare. These guys, are either to shy to come up and talk to me or creepy stalkers. Guys here are notorious for undressing you with their eyes. They have no shame. They will blatantly stare at you as you pass them. I then began getting a bunch of friend requests from all these guys. How the hell do they know my name? Small town, everyone knows the name of the Croatian/American girl who lives in Konavle. Of course, not that they sent me any messages through Facebook...I think they just wanted to continue to stare. Stop staring and come talk to me people! You are freaking me out!
These are just a few examples. Dating here is actually quite difficult. There are more women in Dubrovnik than there are men, so of course the men now think that they are God's gift. Then, of course, once the season starts and all those tourists come...you know the ones I'm talking about...the slutty girls who go on vacation with one goal: Sleep with a hot foreigner. Now, you have to deal with the men being faithful here, which from what I understand, is a rather big problem. Cheating is rampant here and it goes both ways. There are a lot of hot guys on holiday looking for a little Croatian romance too. How do you come to terms with that? Truth is, I don't care how many women a man has slept with. It could be two or could be a hundred, it doesn't matter to me. What matters to me is that once he is with me, that I can trust him when he says that I'm the only one. I want to know that when we get in a fight or things get tough in our relationship that he isn't going to go off, get drunk, and sleep with the first woman who throws herself at him.
Of course, I have also met some really decent men here too. I have had amazing conversations with them and have been treated like a princess. Good guys do exist here, but it's like going to a thrift store, you have to sift through a lot shit, to find the one decent thing on the rack.
And so my journey continues...
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